First Wednesdays Constellating Systems Lab (english/online)

“We are born with an absolute necessity for help, grow well only with a continuous succession of extended hands, and as adults depend upon others for our further successes and possibilities in life even as competent individuals.”   –David Whyte–

The Work of One is the Work of All

I am thrilled to invite you (again) to our monthly Constellating Systems Lab (every first Wednesday, minus a possible summer break). Please, book at least 2 hours before each event. This is an open group … join, whenever it works for you.

Logistics

Monthly First Wednesday

8:00 pm MET / 2:00 pm EST / 12:00 noon MST / 11:00 am PST

a Zoom link will arrive by email on the morning of each event, close to your respective time. One reminder will arrive at the beginning of the week.

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We welcome helping professionals (heck! all humans) who are in discord with conflicted parts (Little Persons), formed by early life experiences. I invite, each and every one of them, in the spirit of:

"Knowing that each part is charged with the mission to survive, each in its 
own way, helps clients to see that how they survived was more crucial than how they 
were victimized. Understanding how each part participated in survival increases 
the sense of “we, together” and challenges the sense of being abandoned and alone. 
Feeling [our own]warmth and empathy for young wounded selves 
feels healing and comforting." 
(Janina Fisher, Routledge 2017, loc 898/Kindle)

As caregivers, we may be haunted by the shame of professional inadequacy when our Little Persons jump into the driver’s seat. We may worry about imposter syndrome. We may doubt our professional integrity. We may be shaken by the depth of being affected by change-seekers. If so, almost inevitably a Little Persons is at work. They reside in our bodyself … known, silent, or hidden. When they intend to protect us, they are likely unaware that their ‘counsel’ –well-meant, wilful, desperate, and more– is outdated woefully.

Join us! This event is the place and time to explore their presence. Moreover, this place adds one more priceless dimension: a committed communal presence that adds heartfelt “warmth and empathy for young wounded selves” to other’s reconning with themselves. 

In short: 
Receiving the (rare?) gift of a warm communal embrace 
(from five to ten regulars)
is the not-so-secret ingredient we offer each other.

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What We Practice

mutual vulnerabilities – presence – honest kindness 

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An initial round of arriving and sharing is followed by mapping an emergent collective theme. We explore its significance by co-imagining and co-constellating (every participant constellates!) the facets and portals of their issue’s systemic location in their lives, and receives insights for mending/integration.

Just as readily, we prioritize an individual’s request for a professional supervision consultation. Maybe you experience an entanglement with one of your change-seekers (a.k.a. client), you want to explore a specific systemic application, or you grapple with an Inner World issue. 

Any multitude of issues, offered along with your desire for nourishment (!) or change, are welcome. Via a tabletop constellation (your desk/room) you process (possibly far-reaching) systemic relations between the parts we jointly determined. This practices our Systemic Trauma Imagination  ––from our family of origin and far beyond. You will experience embodied responses to your ‘representers’ (anything in your environment will offer insights, once set up relationally on your tabletop. You may try out blind constellating, or expand your process into a ceremony. When done, we share experiences, regardless of the framework you used. The storytelling always merges into a relevant tapestry of interbeing. 

My trauma-sensitive approach (whichever systemic methodology/context I use) seeks to see and meet another’s Nested Worlds (plural!). Of course, constellating World Systems, in my book, needs to include the world constructed by our biography;  the visceral architecture of known, silent, even of unknowable memories. Our Inner World System –populated by conflicting parts– needs to be as crucially attended to, as your family of origin, your ancestral lineages, your cultural imprinting, the socio-historical contexts of your kinship, and more worlds beyond. 

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A Bit About Me

I am a traumatologist, committed to systemic imagination and exploration. When constellating systems, I engage the many nested worlds, including whatever beyond-human ecologies want to join a setting (think, Nature Constellating.) I entered my apprenticeship in the trauma trade with very early lived experiences of profoundly formative relational rupture experiences. Therefore, I am fascinated with systemic trauma and the mending of broken connections. I cherish, and draw from, three decades of study, from working with change-seekers and supporting systemic trauma apprentices as an elder facilitator.   

I am profoundly grateful for my teachers of many stripes. With some, I apprenticed in person, from others I learned through books, videos, and by witnessing their seminal spirits. My gratitude goes out to the late Wolfgang Leihner (Heilpraktiker, Integrative Psychologist), to Jens Tismar (Traditional Chinese Medizin), tAmy and Arny Mindell (process as a vehicle of systemic emergence), Pat Ogden (Sensory-motor Therapy), Rolf Institute Boulder (Certified Rolfer®; multiple teachers), Judith Herman, Peter Levine, Anngwyn St. Just (Social Trauma Therapy), Pete Walker, Dan Siegel, Bonnie Badenoch (Somatic, Soul, and Social Trauma), Cedar Barstow (Right Use of Power.) I wish to specifically honor my Constellating Systems teachers: Hunter Beaumont, Bert Hellinger, Gunthard Weber, Daan van Kampenhout, Franz Ruppert, Ivan Verny, Sne Victoria Schnabel, and more. Finally, I thank my gracious post-grad degree teachers who made religious studies a serious pursuit and a delight: Theodor M. Vial, Albert Hernandez, Tink Tinker, and Eric C. Smith, among others.

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What I do on the many other days of the months

I offer systemic counseling for individuals, partners, and groups; in-person and online. 

My online groups foster my collegial connection with and among us. 

Since 2003, I have taught my insights and the methodologies they influenced at conferences and workshops.

I continue to gather knowledge, wisdom, and skill. For example, finding Carlo Rovelli’s intriguing renderings of theoretical quantum physics –in the mantle of sheer poesy– presently enriches how I experience and develop Systemic Trauma Mending.

In short, three and a half decades of interdisciplinary study, and decades of creatively facilitating (always in the making), combined with a trauma-sensitive comportment, meet every field’s emergent dynamics with discernment and reverence. 

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Oh, and this Also Happens!

we misstep – we attune <#> we activate trauma – we slow down <#>  we have an agenda – we restore emergence <#> we make a mess – we mend 

Relational courage and collegial intimacy will, almost inevitably, activate immature parts into jumping in the driver’s seat. When that happens while we are together, we sort through the situation and find appropriate differentiation between you, the mature professional, and the Little Person. That restores the mature professional (you) to once again claim the driver’s seat. 

Throughout, we honor the protective prowess of shame and guilt and right-size it, where needed. We unbraid trauma bonds. We accompany Little Persons on their (now appropriate) seat on the bus. 

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