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…mending is patient, steadfast, often unglamorous work — it is the work of choosing kindness over fear, again and again, in the smallest of everyday ways, those tiny triumphs of the human spirit which converge in the current of courage that is the only force by which this world has ever changed.

Maria Popova

We are born into, and received by, kin, friends, collectives, communities, and the world at large. Our experience of belonging, for better or worse, was/is formed in these contexts by known events and unknowable circumstances. The elation of being met, the despair of disconnect, and everything in-between influences how we live life.

Life’s ruptures and losses -especially neglectful, malicious, or violent ones- greatly affect individuals, couples, parenting, family systems, collectives, communities, and (not least) nations. They are the stuff that human trauma responses are made of. Untended (un-mended) trauma burdens our day-to-day and shapes all futures, untended trauma burdens our day-to-day and shapes futures by way of generational transmission of systemic fragmentation. Therefore, Systemic Traumatology assumes cracks –known and unknown ones– in the ancestral fabric of a change-seeker’s (a.k.a., client) belonging to family of origin.

Yet, even in the worst of circumstances
“we will, must, do” attach.

Collin A. Ross, MD (2009) Trauma Model Therapy–

Personal pain, family conflict, generational entanglement, and communal strive, they all feed collective trauma. Gazing through a systemic lens allows us to see the embeddedness of ‘individual dysfunction’ into self-similar patterns (fractals) across time and space. So-called ‘brokenness’ (be it human, environmental, global, universal) never can be attributed to an individual’s faulty wellness, nor to any individual ‘event’. We thrive or flounder, within and through relationship to All. We are stunned by ruptures, pained by alienation, and suffer from increasing fragmentation of All.

Should you consider to meet with me for Systemic Consultation,  or participate in a Systemic Constellating Werkstatt Event, the above is the lens, through which I will invite you to gaze – together. We will gather what is known of your family lore, note whatever explicit and implicit memories emerge, and take time to observe what happens somatically during our perambulations in your systemic map. Gazing at your systemic map  needs time. It needs to be honoured, in good measure. Then, we see the spaces around you and in the times before you were born. This careful presencing of systemic influences will un-silence cracks and ruptures. It will, sometimes immediately, always gradually, make room for emergence of what is ready to mend.

Wandering into, and throughout your systemic map, includes systemic trauma education. That means, we refrain from for-fronting pathology, in fact, we will highlight and celebrate what is right, always was!  Slowing down is the most important ingredient in meeting traumatic activation and mending what keeps it spinning. That spells, we will invite change gradually, while we ground every shift in your insights and, in your body somatically.

My work is process oriented, attachment based, trauma sensitive and, at heart, relational. My work enables and empowers people to be change seekers in their lives, families, and communities. Which form that takes, leans into the creativity and diversity any given system, and person, requires.

I serve individuals, couples, groups, and anyone who wishes to address intractable conflict. My Constellating Systems Werkstatt provides (where possible in-person, online as needed) to explore, process, play with, and re-home within you what needs mending. I also offer Systemic Traumatology Apprenticeships as educational opportunities for (new) systems facilitators; page is in the making.)

It is a privilege to be part of the gradual emergence of wholeness in my change-seekers’ worlds. Wholeness to self, other, and the world at large, the complex web of many ecologies we each are part of, allowing for ever more fluid belonging. Their treasured experiences never ceases to awe me.

In collaboration with international colleagues, the Constellating Systems Werkstatt offers individual sessions, group events, essays, and webinars; a bounty of trauma-sensitive systemic exploration. But now, if you resonate with my introduction (and with more information on this site) I look forward to meeting you, soon.

Karin Dremel, mts, hp, hc, nlp
Systemic Traumatologist – Constellating Systems Facilitator
Heilpraktikerin (HP, Germany) – Humanist Chaplain (HC, AHA)
Mental Health Professional (License NLP# 6709, Colorado, USA)